Tuesday, March 5, 2019

hello 40.

This past weekend, I turned 40!  Turning this new older age has opened up a new way of life for me.  Sometimes I still feel like my 20 year old self, who has to call my parents for every little thing.  I do call my parents a lot, but not for every little thing.  It's a weird feeling.  When I think of 40 year olds, I think of run down parents, with a bunch of kids, married for up-teen years, and trying to get through life with all the chaos.  I don't feel any of those things!  I feel like I'm still 30 something years old, who has a hot husband, amazing kiddos, and living life to the fullest the best I know how.  I hope to continue to feel this way!

Now let's get into the birthday festivities!
Started off the weekend with breakfast and booze with my Mama at a local favorite of mine called Price Hill Chili.  Bloody Mary for my Mom, and a Malibu/Diet for me.  I had eggs, toast and bacon, my Mom had eggs, bagel, and fruit.  After breakfast, I had some last minute errands for the party.
Saturday, we had a party with some family and friends.  The bar cart was my favorite of the home decor we've done so far.  My lovely amazing husband stocked the bar, and boy did he stock it good.
My friend Kristin drove in from out of town to attend the party!  And with her she brought this gorgeous cake she had made from a local bakery by her house.  It was beautiful, and tasted amazing!
We had so much fun!  I'm so glad everyone came to celebrate my 40th, and to see our new house.  We are so proud of it, and it was nice for people to share the excitement with us!
Sunday, we had my family over for a small dinner.  Thanks Mom for making such a delicious cake!  Here is the recipe if anyone is interested: Smitten Kitchen.

Entering this new decade of my life feels like a huge deal, and while I feel exactly the same as I did the day before I turned forty, there's something inside of me - like a ***k it attitude.  Forty sounds really grown-up and I like it.  Suddenly feel like their are no more rules, I can eat what I want, do what I want, and finally dive into my life and really savor it.  I'm all grown up and don't have to answer to anyone.  Well, my husband of course, sort of.  But turning forty feels liberating.  I can understand why some people fall into a mid-life crisis when they hit their forties, but I feel fully conscious around all of this.  I feel like I now have permission to just be ME.

Some random thoughts that have been going through my mind...

Anything anyone says about you or does to you is about them not you 99% of the time.

Slow down.  Take a breath.  Look again.

Being an asshole gets you nowhere.  Be nice.  We've all been there.  I've had my moments where I'm grumpy, irritable, and annoyed at everything in life.  Being a bitch is nasty.  Smile, be gracious, be kind, and be humble.

Breath in the ocean air every chance you get.

There is no such thing as fair or unfair.  Things are what they are.  You make your own life, your own destiny, your own future.

Start with a small idea, it can lead to bigger things.

It's okay to protect yourself from the people who trigger you.  Unsubscribe.  Unfollow. Avoid.  Make your excuses.  Sometimes we have to protect our hearts, and if there's someone who makes you feel like crap, you don't have to let them into your world.

Believe in yourself.  There's nobody else in the entire world like you.

Your circle should want to see you win.  Your circle should clap loudly when you have good news.  If not, get a new circle.

You never really know.  People will assume they know everything about me because I post a good chunk of my life here on this blog.  They don't.  Sometimes life in internet land can look flawless and glamorous.  Don't judge a book by it's cover, because you never know.  No one likes a Judge Judy anyway right?

Diets suck.  They are a quick fix with short term results.  Sticking to a healthy lifestyle is a constant struggle for me, but at least I know what I need to do to have a good balance.

No one is going to do anything for you.  If you want something done, get up and do it.  Life is what you make of it.  Opportunities don't just fall from the sky, you gotta make it happen.

You cannot change people.  This is the hardest thing for me.  I always and still continue to struggle with this one.  For years I would try and control the outcome of family drama, friendships, work, etc.  This year, I've realized that it is what it is.  Trying to control the situation and change people into something they're not, is pointless.  It's a waste of my breath.  People are who they are.  People are set in their ways for their own reasons.  It's not worth my time and energy to try and figure out why.  We only get one life, and I want to live it.

Deep thoughts by Mandy lol

No comments:

Post a Comment